I don't want you to think we're dumping on you either, John. Sometimes I read the comments on here and I know how you feel bad most people mean well. Ya it's all fun and laughs but this is really a major problem in your life -- I get that and am sorry if you've ever felt hurt.
Now--put on your game face and start making changes! That is great you took your ring off. If you felt that was major for you, then awesome! Baby steps... we want to see you walk to the other end with a big smile on your face
