I guess I just think that when you withdraw from a conflict, when you don't clearly state your position, how you felt about what happened (no I don't mean letting your emotions run away with you), and negotiate a way to manage the situation better next time ... the other party will never know how they could do it better next time so that they CAN meet your expectations and make you happy.

IDK. Just my theory. If it doesn't fit for you it doesn't.

I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.