Reply to stbx, how about: "I'm so happy I can barely contain myself, in fact, I gotta go- thanks for asking. laters."
You want to reply because you feel it's rude or because you want to somehow tell him how you feel? If it's the latter then don't reply. If it's the former reply with what wii said. Something short and sweet.
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
You want to reply because you feel it's rude or because you want to somehow tell him how you feel?
Haha. I do live dangerously! And I was thinking of replying beacuse a combo of both of those things. It's weird but I am getting to a place where I am fine w/ not responding to him. Why is this happening? Does it mean I am moving on? By the same token, I wonder sometimes...well what if I do reply and it changes our story? I guess one always wonders the "what if?" factor w/ these things.
CTH, I am hopping over to your thread now.
I have a massive exam tonight so I am studying on my lunch break.
Yes it does mean you're moving on or more precisely becoming stronger. You're realizing you're complete on your own, you don't answer to him, you have options and choices and you choose to not desire someone that doesn't value you. You're worth more!
As for the what-ifs...well if he truly misses you and wants you then he'll make the effort. I waited for my wife for 2 years, I made changes, I became a different person, I recognized my own flaws and owned up to my mistakes I proved to her I cared and loved her. It's about actions not lip service. While I don't think anyone has to choose the route I took nor did I know what I was doing at the time but what I did know was I couldn't give her up so I did everything in my power for her but also for me. What your H's done (nothing) so far doesn't speak the same to me yet. Ultimately you decide what you want to do, you know him best but don't fill yourself up with hopes and dreams because of one text. He's got to prove he wants you and he can start by appologizing and owning up to what he's done wrong. Perhaps then there could be a level plain to have a mutual dialogue about what you each did or didn't do in your M/R. He can't just waltz back into your life like a drunk chipmunk.
Goodluck on your exam!
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
^ Thanks, IR.I feel much better about this exam than the previous one. I did blank on some ?s but overall felt good. Then we had to make up some fun petri dishes full of e. coli and staph bacterias. Fun!
Originally Posted By: ImprovedRomeo
Yes it does mean you're moving on or more precisely becoming stronger. You're realizing you're complete on your own, you don't answer to him, you have options and choices and you choose to not desire someone that doesn't value you. You're worth more!
He's got to prove he wants you and he can start by appologizing and owning up to what he's done wrong. He can't just waltz back into your life like a drunk chipmunk.
LOLing at the "drunk chipmunk" comment. Still haven't written him back. Think I may have seen his work car this morning on my way to work. Didn't pay too much attention.
The petri dish details sound...err...intersting. Glad to hear your exam went well.
When are you hanging with the hang out guy?
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
The petri dish details sound...err...intersting. Glad to hear your exam went well.
When are you hanging with the hang out guy?
We are growing some bacteria so we can do an experiment. Exciting, huh?
Hang out guy (let's call him HG) and I are hanging tomorrow. We are going to a festival thing w/ our bffs (who have been a couple for about 7 yrs now, which is how we know eachother).
So... I hit up the gym last night and did some MAJOR cardio which was awesome. I love cycling.
Went to the dentist this morning and they assured me stbx is off my insurance. After I left they texted me "Mr. Sol, just FYI, your next appointment is this upcoming Monday." I never told him I took him off my insurance after he got his mouth fixed all this summer. Interesting. It's like, Find your own damn dentist! LOL. He also bought his new furniture at the place where we bought all our furniture (a family friend's store & announced to the owner how we were D'ing--awesome). Gah!
Soooo that 2 am text he sent me on Saturday that said:
I don't know what to do!... But I do know that I miss you. I miss you so very much. I hope that you will be happy because I am not.
As you know, I never wrote him back and last night wrote this but never sent it:
What is it that you don't know what to do about? You told me to delete your # (and I did). I'm sorry that it came to this. I miss you too and very much hope you find your happiness (and peace). To send or not to send?
Sol, I like what you wrote but what's the response you're expecting from him? What do you want to happen? Haven't you told him all this in the past? But I also understand from your pov so if you want to send it because you don't want to wonder 2 years from now then go ahead. If nothing comes out of it your life won't change one bit- just don't have high hopes. Perhaps:
"What is it that you don't know what to do about? So far I've respected your wishes and done exactly what you've asked for. I even deleted your # because you asked me to. You say you miss me but your actions don't match your words. I do hope you find whatever it is you're looking for. Sol."
Working out is good for you in more ways than one Have a good time at the festival!
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
Have a good time at the festival!