Rebound? Guilty as charged I suppose. I know that I have limitations in my own ability to be in a LTR at this point. I guess it is about enjoying the present and being honest with myself and others. Which I think I'm doing OK at. No one has been led to believe that I'm ready for a commitment of any kind. Yes, I went there in my head, in fantasy with M. But I never said anything to him that was other than totally frank regarding my intentions, or lack of them.
I also know that my heart acts quickly. I went directly from a 2 year live-together R to being with STBXH for 18 years. Was STBXH a rebound R? I don't think so.
Guitarist isn't a "serious" relationship. He's a boyfriend, there's a connection, we're seeing one another exclusively and plan to do so in the medium term. He only separated last September so we're in the same place of re-finding ourselves after losing ourselves in parenting and dead marriages. We both want and need to grab some pleasure and find some connection.
I'm not afraid of being alone. I've been alone emotionally and physically for years. Being with a man is a 180 for me...a wonderful one.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
