I realize that these are activities (and even the trips, too) that you enjoy, too. I was referring more to your posts about "I am keeping her busy with _____," or "I feel if I keep her doing thus-and-such, it will be good for her," etc. They come across as patronizing and controlling to me -- albeit from a heart obviously filled with good intentions and love for your wife.
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Her depression (or whatever it is) is her problem to solve.
I agree. What I'm suggesting is, perhaps adjusting your approach so that she's forced to solve it more frequently. Let her remain in the "crucible" on some of these issues, even if they make her grouchy, irritable, uncomfortable, etc., rather than rescuing her from those feelings or trying to shield her from them to begin with.
