Took the kids to school this morning and went to work on a homicide investigation that has had our office stumped for a month now. 3 victims, one was pregnant. Dope deal gone bad. Anyway W sent a text and asked where I was working today? sent her one back about 30 minutes later that I was knee deep on an investigation whats up? She then started to aske about it, we chatted back and forth. Then she went into asking me if I was using steroids? WTF? I did not respond to that, she then said well since you didnt respond i will assume you are. She then typed you have gotten bigger, and that she is worried about me, she doesnt care what other people say, she does still care. She then goes into how we weill not be best friends but how could I not try and preserve the sliver of a relationship we have left? I kept letting her type away. I finally typed to her I am happy with the way things are what needs to change? She said a lot needs to change. I stopped responding to that convo and finally said lets go back to why you asked where I was working today. She still didnt really go into it. SHe then went on about why she would expect anything different from me.
I still have not had the Robx speech, have felt our sitch is beyond that. I have been back in the gym and regained all the stress weight I lost back in muscle! so now I am using steroids? classic!
My roommate's Gf said to me that my W thinks I look good and this was her twisted way of trying to accuse me of something! She hasnt reached in a while, but it got a bit ridiculous today!
Thats my story of the day. Still not 3 pages a day like John thank god! I dont even post there anymore, I cant do it.
My response would have been: "How could I not try to preserve the sliver of the relationship we have left? Oh... I don't know, you originally had an affair and you never worked to regain my trust again, you made it seem like you were taking me back, nothing I did was ever good enough, you are miserable to me most of the time, you wrote hurtful things about us in your journal, you probably attempted to have another affair that I'm not aware of, you got your own place, you asked me for help constantly with your move and fixing things and I provided it, you took the kids and made it difficult for me to have any type of fair custody of my children as if I'm some sort of criminal, in general you treat me poorly, worse than anyone I know. So guess what, I gave up on you, after a while a person gets the hint, you will always be this way towards me and I've accepted it. FYI - I don't have any friends that do this to me, because I wouldn't do that to them. I have higher standards than that. That's why we can't be friends or have any type of relationship other than being civil and co-parenting our children. Life is very good as is and I only expect it to get better so maybe it was you all this time, that's why jumping through hoops all these years trying to please you didn't work, because I wasn't the main problem. You have personal issues you need to resolve, you need to focus on yourself before worrying about any type of relationship with me."
You give her the walking papers, notice of employment termination, you run through your score card of the things that she did which killed it for you and that's that.
You aren't mean, you're not a prick or an a$$hole, you are real with her, blatantly honest.
As for the "steroids" issue, she has nothing left, she's grasping at whatever else she can to hold against you, and it's not working anymore. It's just a hurtful accusation on her part that she can't back up, she just notices you look very good now, healthy, in shape and it probably bothers her, she didn't expect that when the two of you separated, that you would end up looking and feeling better than when you two were together.
