For a 51-year-old woman, you seem to treat your wife like a father would treat a child, or a pet. You guide her around, keep her busy, and try to rescue her moods and emotions.
Starsky
It comes down to what will move her forward. The activities we do together are those that I enjoy also--dancing, exercise, swimming, dance lessons. I think it's fine to try to influence one's spouse to move forward in a positive way, as long as I don't take responsibility for her problem. Her depression (or whatever it is) is her problem to solve. It's hard to know where the line is regarding being helpful versus being manipulated. There's a certain amount of experimentation, I will need to do, to get some clarity on this.
I decided to take one night off from dance classes, because my W asked me to. I think going to the class this time would have been selfish. If this becomes a pattern, we'll take another look at it.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
