She was saying so much that she contradicted herself. She was stating that she felt like I was the one who wanted to be out of the M. I guess the not calling, pursuing, etc. was going noticed. W also stating that, I am saying that I am changing (I did state that at the very beginning of going through this experience but it does not come out of my mouth anymore). She says that I am not. Later in conversation W states does not understand my changes. Working out, doing chores, getting up early and taking care of kids. IMO she is just noticing that I am more involved, I was involved before. I was trying the validating of her feeling and not agreeing or arguing. She would called me out on it the 2 times I did it. She asked where I learned that and for me to stop. I won't stop.
W talked of going to see L on Friday. She is scared because she does not know why I got a L. I was honest with her before and told her that I did not want a D and that I want to know my rights and be protected. I then said to her that she is free to choose weather she wants a D or not. I want her to do what she wants. I am mentally prepared for the consequences. She says that I manipulate her. I did agree that showing up back to the house was manipulative but was not the intention. Well I think I just dropped the rope by telling her she can file a D if that is what she wants.
No matter what I know I need to work on boundries. That is something that I have not established much in my life. I guess that could have been a huge problem in M.
IMO W is confused. IMO W has so much stress that she beleives having me out of her life will lift that stress.
HopelessIn Love
M and W:33 Kids M-10 ILYBNIL-4/2/10 Sep: 8/20/10 Back into house: 10/18/10
