do I just let everything go when she said she wishes we would have worked on this before and we shouldn't be here right now etc.
This was actually one of the parts where I felt she could have been validated. The key to validation is to hear the underlying feelings being expressed, not just the words being said. Also, the context of it being said, and even just the fact of it being mentioned at all are all relevant pieces of the message. (this is why so-called "active listening" is not the most effective means). Maybe you have an idea of what the underlying message behind what she said is.
Originally Posted By: Db9
Next week do I take it up a notch and say I need more then just your word?
I think the danger here is appearing to be too threatened by the OM. If it must be brought up, I would put it in her lap about what could be done to convince you that the NC agreement is being kept.
