wow advice all over the map. Some recommend backing off, others recommend moderatation, other recommend total kick out..
I have the boundry in place. She understands it.
I don't see these as contradictory. You laid down your boundary. You can compromise on some things (i.e. your kid) but not on the OM. If she makes that crack about "doing it for the right reasons" you might ask her exactly what those are, clearly vows are not a good enough reason.
AGREE with this. His wife needs to understand that "maybe," "I'm not sure," "I'll think about it," or any other middle-of-the-road/squishy answer to Pcola's boundary, will be taken by Pcola as a "NO" as to her commitment to their marriage.
