wow advice all over the map. Some recommend backing off, others recommend moderatation, other recommend total kick out..
I have the boundry in place. She understands it.
I can "understand" the 55mph speed limit, but it doesn't mean I won't flagrantly violate it.
Yes, I think she understands what you CLAIM TO WANT/NEED/DEMAND. I don't for a minute think she is clear on what you will do about it if she violates it. From your descriptions of your interactions with her, I think she is testing you, BIG TIME, and I think the longer you allow her to control this false choice, the more she loses respect (thus, LOVE) for you.
