I dont feel like talking to her, I guess I am done with it? dont know, I just dont feel I need to go in to too much detail! none of her business.
Maybe that is how it is. Sure sounds like it from reading your latest entries.
You came here seeking advice on how to cope and how to possibly save your marriage, but maybe you don't want that anymore. I can understand. I have been there, and yet... my W and I are trying to reconcile... with me being the one that is having a hard time being 100% all-in right now, and the thing is... I know THAT was part of our problem pre-bomb, so I plan on addressing that myself.
If it's not too late for you, maybe try a little experiment just to humor me. What do you have to lose if you are wanting this divorce anyway?
Next time she expresses any concern, turn what she says into a question and repeat it back to her (it validates her at the same time it gives her a chance to explain herself).
She told you something like, "Believe it or not, I still care about you", so you could have turned that one around easily and into, "You still care about me?".
It's not needy, it's not clingy, it's not hopefully begging, it's just a little verbal judo that turns back around what she is saying, and she can either respond or not. Her choice.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
