WAW 20 years and wants out

[gutwrenching]

She says the reason she has not dropped him from FB and still maintains him as a friend is because her friends have pulled back and she wants to keep the friends she has left. She also say I am controlling her by demanding she drop him as a friend, but she understands how I feel and knows she will have to drop him if we work on our marriage.

and that I pushed her farther away yesterday with my demand she leave.

She says I am trying to control her

This is all crap, BS. Ignore it. This is all because she wants to leave. How do you push someone further away that has feelings for OM and wants out of a marriage. She is just pissed cause you tried to inject reality into her fantasy.

She opened more about him then she has

Be careful...this could be crumb tossing to throw you off track

It is a marathon.
Keep the emotions out of it. Wait till your emotions have calmed down before saying/doing things