WAW 20 years and wants out

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Time,

poor choice of words. I dont see this as a game at all. I should have said, "how am I doing?"

We just got done talking again. She was wide awake. I told her I cant rebuild trust with her while OM is in the picture. I said it was across any boundry for a wife or husband to be in such close contact with another person and that replaces the partner. She said she DID reach out to him but didnt want to discuss any details. She said he has backed way off and they have only had contact a couple of times on FB and 2 phone calls. I told her that was too many.

She asked what I wanted to see happen, I told her No Contact period.. she said that she wants to do that, that it would be easy, but she is afraid it is me simply controlling her. I told her it was me maintaining the boundries of marriage that she agreed with.

She said she could understand that. I told her I must have transparency to rebuild the trust to be able to even address the past issues. I told her a first start is Dump from FB and then NC.

She said she is not in a place yet to do that.

Ball in her court.

Steve, what was the answer?