While I totally understand where you are coming from on this don't you think this is a little to aggressive after a week?
As I have explained I was not the best husband, I see that now, she moved out to protect her, and whilst I am detaching this seems to push for a response of anger from her?
She is already angry that she has had to move and for the way I have treated her, so to push to make her more angry seems anti-productive?
You guys have been a great help to me and I respect your views totally but to push this hard after a week seems to me to be the wrong approach, I am trying to change to be a better person and a better father to my children, and I will give them what I can, what I don't want to do is continue the fighting with my wife after she has gone, I sick of the fighting, its worn me down so to carry that on is not what I want to do.
Yes I'm standing up for myself, yes I'm going to be strong and say no, but I don't want to push too hard too soon.
I need to let the dust settle and then see where we are.
