I have D4MIL. I've read many of them, but should go back and read them all. I agree that our sitches are similar. I have been following him for a while, but he doesn't whine as much as I do, lol!!
lostnhurt did his share of whining but i put an end to that.
i've said to him from the start, that i don't usually give advice to others on this board. i don't know why i decided to help him out. to see him go from "i'm afraid" to "i'm not scared anymore" .. is huge. and that's where you need to be.
homework: read it and tell me what parts can you relate to.
squash was excellent. this 95 lb body can sure generate a lot of power.