I just feel that I am teetering on the precipice of being relegated to permanent friendship
Sorry, that is an expectation.
Originally Posted By: goodattitudegirl
I think that tomorrow night I have to be a bit more romantic..........maybe invite XH to a movie this weekend. I'll think about this tomorrow.
Patience. You can not make this happen faster but you can slow it down.
Lance, as always......thank you very much for your perspective. After reading your comment this morning I happened to hear part of a radio show today in which the guest expert was talking about how expectations in M can lead to anger and disappointment. The combination of your comment (and CW's comment) along with the radio show was like a message from above: "No expectations". Can never be reminded too often. I will try to reset my attitude......I know that the anonymous package in my case is causing some movement, so in that regard I guess I am lucky.
Cas and CW, thanks to both of you for your continued encouragement.
XH and I played table tennis for 2 hours tonight. He only slept 4 hours last night because of his work schedule today, but still showed up to play. I guess that means that he places some importance on our weekly games. The very first thing he did when he walked into the room was place a sample of writing from OW#2 and an item with her fingerprints on the table in front of me. The writing did not look at all like the printing in the anonymous package. Based on that one thing, I don't think she sent the package.
We laughed and played some fun points. On the way out I reserved table time in 1 week and told XH I would practice that day, but if he wanted to play that would be good too. Only Thursday evening (not our regular Wednesday evening) was open, but without hesitating XH said "I can probably play that day". That makes me think that OW#2 might not be in the picture any more, or he would have responded so quickly.
We chatted by our cars for about 20 minutes (it was cold and XH was wearing biking pants), mostly about the mysterious package (updated XH on the status of the fingerprint analysis), but also about movies. XH and I have always been big movie fans. I asked XH why he hasn't been going to many movies recently. He said that he just doesn't enjoy sitting through movies unless they are really good and he hasn't felt like going. This is a BIG change for him. XH and BMF used to go to EVERY movie made (lots of real stinkers along with the critically acclaimed movies). Made me wonder if XH is more depressed than I thought he was. I've only seen flashes of the normal, fun H/XH in the last 6 months. The man I fell in love with was consistently fun and a goodattitudeguy...........As we were leaving I said "I've been going to movies on fridays right after work. If you want to go together sometime, let me know, OK?" He nodded and we got into our cars..........It will be interesting to see if he takes me up on the movie offer.....
