The dead horse had been beaten so much it's glue.. and not even that sticky anymore.
There is no answer, no validation, nothing that 'fits'. They left and believe it's the right thing. And viewing the soon to be and/or former spouse as a screwball is a point of view taken by either opposing party. It just is.
Sometimes the thoughts whirl in my head and I have to let them go. It's a process, takes time.
As said above, the kids are the losers.. something precious is ripped from them and caring nurturing parents do what is necessary to help them, love them and provide a secure, stable home.. reassuring them that you're not going anywhere.. aren't leaving them.
Venting is a good thing. Working it out enough to let it go is good, too.
The marriage broke. It wasn't (couldn't be) fixed. It's over.
You've come a long long way. Habits that both of you have are hard to let go... blaming, zingers.. just being unsettled. And your situation is difficult. What she does is none of your business. But luckily you have documentation to refute her statements if it comes to a trial.
You will never have the answer she's looking for... period.
You do lots of stuff, Themselves have the most beautiful smiles and radiance and you seem like a really good guy. Keep staying on the road to health and leave the muck behind.
Face it.. she'll be just as mad talking to you as not conversing. Decide what works for you.
And while you're at it, consider auditioning for a show. If cast it truly is a unique experience.
