I had originally reached out a lawyer about a month ago but held off. I've contacted them again to set up a consultation.
I talked to her this evening--I'm out of town on a business trip--and she brought up the R. On an on about how she needs to try to make this work, I've shown her that I'm committed, I've changed, every day I get to know you better my feelings for you return, blah, blah blah. My only responses were A) you need to be all in emotionally or physically for this to even have a shot at working out; or B) You've given me a lot to think about.
I also pushed her very hard about why she wasn't going to the police about OM if she was assaulted. I said I was trying to understand her reluctance. She actually stammered a bit and was flustered when we were talking about it. Here's the thing. The guy has a record and back in 2008 a women took out a restraining order on him; he's a threat not only to my marriage but to her as well. Regardless of how I feel about my W she's the mother of my son who needs her; therefore, I need to do what I have to do to protect her from him and for the moment, from herself.
Me-43 W-41 S-3 M- almost 7 W ONS affair - 8/9/10, confronted 8/30/10 Separation - Pending My sitch
