Dan, regardless of what we on the board might think, you are only human. You are allowed to have a bad day. Of course, seeing the pictures changed out is going to affect you. Sometimes a good cry is just what you need. By the way, secretly taking joy in your W's unhappiness with her choices is ok. We all do it.
You might see about finding a way to stop going by the house for their "stuff". Either get stuff to keep at your house or find a place where your W can safely drop it off at your house(bin on the back porch, in the garage, etc) while you're at work. Then you pick up the kids and go straight home, your home. Better transition for all of you.
