When in doubt say nothing, if pressed say "I'm thinking"
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Alright guys, im going to spit out everything i remember, because i have a tendency to forget immediately. I told her my boundaries. I said if you want to have contact with me, then you have to cut all ties with him. She said ok... that she doesnt really talk with him that much anyway. I told her that 5 secs was to much. She then said that it sounded to me like you dont want to talk to me anymore anyway according to the text i sent last night. I said that i should have told her why i came to that conclusion first before just executing the consequence. I once again said that if he's in your life im not.
We then went on to have a little small talk and i once again asked her how often they talked and if they regularly talked during everything going on and she said they didnt talk often.
She apologized and i asked her why she keeps feeling the need to apologize. She said that she didnt mean for this to happen and that she feels like she messed up my life. I told her that no, you didnt mess up my life, ill be fine. She then said that she never saw us getting here. I asked her what she meant and she said that we should be having dinner with friends right now, and not being here. I agreed with her and told her that everyone is responsible for deciding what they want.
She then said she wished we would have tried to do stuff to not get to this point. I think she mentioned like talking to someone but i dont 100% remember. We then had a little more small talk. I was calm the whole time, never got mad, and had no problem joking about her awkardness. There was lots of eye contact and i cought her staring at me more then once. I just played it cool though.
She left and i told her ill see her later. If anything else pops into my mind, ill be sure to post it. Thanks pookie you were a lot of help today, i really do understand a lot of these concepts and things that people say, I just want to make sure im not assuming anything which is why i try to get everyone to spell it out elementary style.
The only thing that I felt like I screwed up on is not saying at the end that I still need to think about all of this. I did send a text after she left saying that, though I don't know if I should have or shouldn't have. Oh well it's done with.
The other thing that got brought up was her saying how she stayed up late last night. I asked why she did and she said some weeks I can't eat or sleep and some weeks I eat and sleep to much. All I told her was "well atleast your balancing it out."
