KEM, You wrote to me, so I've just read your story... and learnt more in that short time than for a long while. I've been feeling so guilty about givig my H the cold shoulder, but it's reversed things; you seem to have understood the mechanism so quickly and have got some great advice. Advice I can now relate to, but wouldn't have understood this Summer. My H is very far from flirting, hugging or testing in any form.Made it clear this Summer I no longer hold any attraction or love interest for him, that he feels nothing. And it's only since I've been scarce, cold and uncommunicative that he's showing tiny signs of "interest". Mind you, I feel he sees me as a last resort option, but doesn't want to feel he's lost me. I get what others are telling you; they have to feel they're losing/ have lost us and get cold feet - very cold feet.So you've taught me something. Good luck, it sounds as though you've still got a fighting chance. NCU
Me: 46 H:42 Together for 18 yrs, married 14. 3 children: 2 girls 13 and 10, one boy 7. Husband had affair, ended it and then decided on separation. Separated 08/2010
