WAW 20 years and wants out

[Serenity13]

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I also acknowledged to her for the first time I pushed her to the TKD OM by my actions and being selfish with my desires over her own self esteem and I caused the cancer in the marriage. I recognize that I was controlling and did not respect her boundry after she called off the PA from the time 10 years ago.

Wrong.

She had the choice, you may have been a jerk, a control freak, as a$$ for all I know, however when push comes to shove, she chose to seek fulfillment elsewhere instead of acting like an adult and coming to you about it.

Own your mistakes, never own the "affair".