If you have decided to take her back, fill the void. She needs to emotionally connect with you. She had an EA...the key word there is emotional. Validate that it is hard and you are proud of what she did. Validate that it is tough to talk about.
Be there, flirt with her (email, skype, phone calls, etc), be that best friend she doesn't want to lose, send her a care package, those kinds of things
M39 W41 Two children WAW bomb dropped 11/7/09 Piecing Aug 10 - Nov 10 No longer piecing...Nov 10 Separation Jan 11 EA ends again Feb 11 Piecing attempt #2, Mar 11