Take 30 - 60 - 90 days to find yourself and forget about the other person. Limited contact, freedom to explore the world around you, learn how to love yourself again.
I agree completely. Give yourself the gift of a break. I think one reason folks stubbornly resist letting go is because they believe it has to be forever. I know I did. It doesn't have to be forever. Let her go for a couple months, take time to heal, and go through the co-dependence withdrawal, then re-evaluate your sitch. The first month is the worst. It gets better over time.
