If there is a boundary setting time, it would be now.
That's my point - you look like a A$$ if you just get all indignant without stating the consequences ahead if time. She needs to know why he is sideways with her.
Which is what I plan on doing later. I'm going to tell her that she hasn't been honest and kept her word on the OM and that I can't allow someone to stay in my life who continues to do these things.
