Also what about the current situation? Do I talk to her now about why I cut contact, or do I just continue the no contact?
So your wife had contact maybe once a month for a yr and you had no boundary in place and now you just want to go dark? Most As involve hundreds - thousands of contacts a month via phone/txt/e-mail. Can't you see she is trying in a sincere way?
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.