DB9- My bomb

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Also, I have no way of being able to find out if she cuts off contact with the guy or not.

I'm going to not assume anything, but what are these ways she is trying to get my attention. If anything now I just feel like she has guilt and nothing else.

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Ok I understand where your going now. Thanks. One other thing though, why would I say I have to see what I want from this marriage when were suppose to be going through a divorce. Isn't that like trying to buy a car that's already been sold to someone. If she had done anything to show she might still want to be married then I feel like it would hold more power.

[pookie69]

Ok I understand where your going now. Thanks. One other thing though, why would I say I have to see what I want from this marriage when were suppose to be going through a divorce. Isn't that like trying to buy a car that's already been sold to someone. If she had done anything to show she might still want to be married then I feel like it would hold more power.

Are you?

[Db9]

I've retained a lawyer, but the way it works here is that u have to wait six months. I got the lawyer b/c I didn't want to be blindsided and I wanted more control in the situation.

[pookie69]

I've retained a lawyer, but the way it works here is that u have to wait six months. I got the lawyer b/c I didn't want to be blindsided and I wanted more control in the situation.

Smart move.

Now, do you actually want to save your M?

She knows you have 6 months of lull.

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She knows about the lawyer, but we don't really bring it up. She hasn't filled or anything b/c she know I have the lawyer. She did say several weeks ago when it came up that she would do all of it if I changed my mind and told her to file.

[soleil]

"There is no more apologies necessary. You promised to never talk to him again and I know that you have not kept your word. Until you do so, we have nothing to talk about. I need to decide what I want from this marriage."

Throw the ball into her court.

Yep

[Db9]

She knows about the lawyer, but we don't really bring it up. She hasn't filled or anything b/c she know I have the lawyer. She did say several weeks ago when it came up that she would do all of it if I changed my mind and told her to file.

[Db9]

So knowing what u know now, does this change anything? Am I wrong about the what I want from this marriage line?

[pookie69]

So knowing what u know now, does this change anything? Am I wrong about the what I want from this marriage line?

What have you exactly told her about divorce?

Does she believe that you are going to file?

For consistency you are asking the right question. You can drop that line if you have agreed that the M is over.