I can see where your wife may be a bit confused and hurt.

You have encouraged an open marriage and exploring her sexuality in the past. Desired information about her private activities, had her open up and talk about it with you, then you used her personal sexual experiences as a method to increase sexual "spark" and intimatcy in your relationship. I can understand where you may have creeped her out. And may have made her question your intentions and stability. As well as her own personal self worth and desires. TKD has now given self-respect, confidance, and strenght to overcome this.

I have been involved in marital arts a very long time and have seen this "master fantasy" happen and progress so many times it seems cliche. A poom belt and a 3 degree black belt are not training partners. Six plus years of understanding Koryo vs. simply being tested on basic skills and knowledge is a significant difference. At the dojang he would be more of an instructor than just her drill partner. Now she has someone encouraging her to Know Yourself and understand her body and its strengths and overcome her weaknesses.

And now you are kicking her out of the house over it?

Are these not the consequences of your previous descions?

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I consented on the grounds she tell me every detail.


SB. I assume you entered into this agreement after open and honest discussion? Maybe not. "I would understand if there was a physical ONLY relationship" I can't believe you taught that was possible not to mention how demeaning it seems in itself.

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Yes my boundry is "I WILL NOT LIVE IN AN OPEN MARRIAGE" I concur I am demanding COMPLETE transparency and NC with the OM.


Is BS. You have encouraged an open marriage and are now reneging on it. That is not a boundary that is changing your mind and now being demanding and controlling about it. It is easy to throw your financial might about in situations like these and scare the crap out of your spouse. It takes a bigger man to understand why they would be willing to share their wife with another man in the first place and how to calmly and rationally explain to her that he doesnt want to play that game anymore.