...By the sound of what she is saying this split is a temporary situation until I can show her my changes, she has never mentioned divorce and never pushed that I sell the house, so I guess its all down to me now to show her the changes in me.\
More hoops to jump through for you, aren't you tired of jumping through all these hoops trying to "prove" how good you are and that you are a good enough husband? How does that feel?
Do you notice all the decisions she has been making for her life that also affect you? How much input did you have in any of these recent events? Sounds like this is par for the course, she's probably been the leader of the tribe for quite some time now, she's pretty confident in herself, you however don't appear to be confident at all.
