I don't know if I can or should even want to be with someone like this. We don't have kids and she doesn't want anything in regards to the house, etc. so I don't have to be nice just to make out okay.
Originally Posted By: Db9
She makes me smile, she's the one that I want to fight every battle with. I don't need another mother or someone to keep my house clean. I want someone who justs wants to go down lifes path with me and see where it takes us. I use to think it was about where you are at in life, but it's actually who your with that is the most important.
Take a break.
Get a hold of your feelings to make the rollercoaster ride less bumpy.
Working today, relaxing tonight. I went out to dinner and signed up for a class last night and I feel like I'm going to fall asleep right now.
I'm really not having a rollercoaster ride of emotions right now though. I'm very relaxed. It's just that before I was wanting to try to do the right things to get my life back together and then see if we could work out. Right now I just don't know if I really care if we work out
Nope, I told her that I've had over a month to think about this situation and that I've come to the conclusion that we shouldnt talk anymore. I said I'm not mad, but this is what I want.
As far as she knows I had an epiphany last night and I no longer want to talk. After I sent it she called right away, texted me to answer the phone/asked why can't we talk, and then called back 15 mins later. I didn't pick up or respond to any of it.
What things do u refer to that says she doesn't think that I'm leading?
As far as her contacting him it seemed it was a text here or a phone call there, maybe once a month with some months being skipped.
She came to me and told me about the affair so how is me bringing up the past about a little more contact they had going to make a difference? Thanks for responding so fast.
What things do u refer to that says she doesn't think that I'm leading?
This.
Originally Posted By: Db9
Issues arose about me not listening to things she wanted, like moving to another state and that i made her feel like she was just taking up space here. She also said she always felt like she had to make me do things, like propose, buy our house etc.
Originally Posted By: Db9
As far as her contacting him it seemed it was a text here or a phone call there, maybe once a month with some months being skipped.
She came to me and told me about the affair so how is me bringing up the past about a little more contact they had going to make a difference? Thanks for responding so fast.
But she promised this.
Originally Posted By: Db9
I confronted her at the time and she said she was sorry, said she would never talk to him again, tell him not to call, etc. etc.
And she has been apologizing profusely since.
"There is no more apologies necessary. You promised to never talk to him again and I know that you have not kept your word. Until you do so, we have nothing to talk about. I need to decide what I want from this marriage."
