Her: "The father comment was related to how you said you feel guilty and like a bad father because you just didn't want to interact with the kids when you wanted time for you or were too tired. I never said you were a bad father. My mixed messages was me trying to stay connected to you. I communicated to you over and over and I would believe you didn't understand if you have not made temporary changes. I think it is making you feel better to point fingers at me - then fine point. You are making me miserable and unhealthy"
Me: "It done's matter any more. Nothing does."
Her: "the kids matter"
Me: "Don't tell me it's making you miserable. I'm doing all I can. Will make any change. Any sacrifice. it is you that has given up on our family with this delusion that we'll all be happy. Talk about Fu&^ed up thinking. This is not the path to happiness for anyone>
Me: "And BTW when we tell the kids, it will not be "we decided" it will be "mom decided"
Her: "Bully me all you want. I won't them in the middle of this. Those are the types of comments that will damage them. I would never elaborate as to how we got here"
Her: "Saying something like that to them would come from a bad father"
Me: "I'm not bullying"
Her: "Yes you are. I am emotional too and I am not treating you like this and using the kids against you. How dare you."
Me: "Sorry. Anger. I won't do that to them"
OMG. What a damn mess.
M: 39 W: 37 Married: 9 D5; S3 "It's Over" 09/26/10 11 Day Sep 10/10 Piecing Starts 11/4/10 Piecing Fails 4/11 I move out 5/11 Hire Lawyer 6/11 - Stall 6/22/11 Piecing #2 - 6/22/11 Home 10/11
