Wife is cheating, am sad but confused?

[HopelessInLove]

Sandi2,
Thanks for those sites and will look at them at some point.
Last night went exactly how I thought it would. W was irritated and wanted to attack verbally. W then blamed me for her not getting her school work done and wanted to attack me about that. She again through at me trust, how I am acting completely different (smiling and waking up early, etc). W- Why are you so happy? Because of my kids was my response. That shut her down completely. As she was yelling and screaming, I just watched in a relaxed and calm state, how she was imploding. I was laughing internally, becuase she was saying that I was getting angry. I let her blow off steam and then she started back into the night before conversation of trust. I immediately interupted her, said I will not tolerate her bringing up that issue and told her that I was ending the conversation. As I was walking away from her she asked how she should be acting and told her that she is free to act how she wants to act, and I left.

A boundry was set that I don't want to hear about trust any more. I will continue to shut her down when she brings that issue up.

I am not sure if the response was the right one about how she should act. She is, even when M was good, always asking for guidence. Thing is W rebels if I or anyone tells her what the expectations are, I learned not to say anything but to let her choose. No one should be in a one sided R. But there are certain things that are very imprortant to me and she has always known them, she never asks when it comes to those matters.