I totally agree with what you are saying, the changes have to be for me, and for my benefit.
But the best change that can happen to me is my wife being with me, I understand that is not within my control, but that is what I would like, so it might come across wrongly in my writing.
I just have to keep doing what I'm doing, my kids love being with me and I love being with them, surely any mother would see this and want a "family" back together?
If not I just carry on being the best father I can be to them, the best person I can be, and hopefully I will look like the husband that she wants to be with.
Thanks for your thoughts guys it really helps and keeps me straight mentally.