By the sound of what she is saying this split is a temporary situation until I can show her my changes, she has never mentioned divorce and never pushed that I sell the house, so I guess its all down to me now to show her the changes in me.
DC,
I don't think this is a healthy way of looking at this. This is very one-sided, and (if I'm understanding DBing correctly), wouldn't this kinda be "pursuing," since everything you're doing, you're trying to do to win her back?
From what Coach, Robx, Pinhead, and some of the others have been saying, I think you're supposed to used this time apart to BE A BETTER DCSUK, and you should do it FOR yourself, not "to show her."
If she senses that you're doing these things "for show," it won't work.
Starsky
Yes.
Don't get me wrong, it's fine to hope that what you do leads you back into a happy relationship. But detaching from the outcome is the key to being happy no matter what occurs. Do the changes you like, that make you the best version of DCSUK you can be. Continue to be a great father. Don't have any expectations about outcomes, plan for all possible/realistic outcomes.
You have choices. When you have choices, you have freedom to direct your life where you will be happy.
