WAW 20 years and wants out

[TimeHeals]

Question... Now that I delivered the "I dont want you here", how often should I remind her to get out? I really want her out.

Words... are just words. You've said them, so how often should you nag her? Nag her when she brings up any subject involving you two being together, everytime she contacts OM, etc.

Actions: I'll defer to others, but she's going to need boxes and packing tape. You could go get those, and if you know her appartment budget, you could put together a list of apartments and leave it on top of the boxes with the packing tape and dispenser.

This can drag out if you allow it. Your boundary is "I will not live in an open marriage". You are just enforcing a reasonable boundary. Unless she gives you something new to work with, make this happen and figure out what a reasonable time-line is. It takes about a week to find an apartment and sign a lease, get movers, and so on FYI.


There's no reason--if it were me--that I would cave on anything short of complete transparency and NC with OM, and even then... not so sure from what you have posted here.