I agree with what has been said to you.

Now you are the LBS...

Let her go and work on yourself.

That is the advice that is given here. If you REALLY want your marriage...

Then

Do that. If you read here about how this process works and the people who have been through it...

You may understand what it means to you to be married and to love someone.

This tragedy that you have brought upon your family may make it stronger

It is up to you. What will you do now?

It is my opinion that everyone has the ability to make better choices. To learn from adversity and know themselves.

It takes work and commitment. What will you do?

What kind of man do you want to be?

You have behaved selfishly.

I ask you this:

What are you prepared to do for your M if you are not guaranteed it will be saved?

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am