It is so hard because H really doesn't understand S. I am in the same boat, although my H is starting to try to be a good dad. Your H has never lived with S so he doesn't understand what it is like to have a kid. He doesn't understand the responsibilities. Not that you can't go out once in a while, but if you lived on your own, you wouldn't be able to just drop S off at your parents and then pick him up later because that would wake S up.
Also thinking about you. His job is at night and yours during the day. Even with the best marriages, that puts a huge strain because you rarely get to see each other.
All very hard stuff and I am sure you are even more concerned because the end of the year is coming quickly, not that we stick to deadlines here, but I am sure that is weighing on your mind.
I feel for you and hope for the best.
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