Damn it all came to a head tonight and I dont know if this relationship is recoverable now. She was going to go out with the guy and I got mad and told her I was takin gth car keys and that this was bullshit.
We both raced up the stairs and she started grabbing and clawing at me so I pushed her off of me. Then I get in the bedroom and she starts hitting me and smacking me from behind in the head so I turned around and tripped her to get her to stop.
We both called the cops and no action was taken I ended up calling a buddy and stayed there.
She admitted she wanted to date the dude but was simply waiting to get out of the house. I told her that was an empotional affair and was just as bad. Then she told me she tried to make it work etc. I told her it wasnt easy for me to that her emotional rollercoaster she puts me through avery 6 weeks was unbearable. THen I said it didnt have to end this way etc but i guess its over now.
I just got back from my buddies.
I spoe with her briefly and we are both going to talk later after I take my son to school and I see my counselor. It really seemed like all the emotion was gone for both of us. I feel releived because I got it all out and stood up for myself.
Also as I was leaving I called her "not boyfriend" and told him he could have her. He was indignant at first, saying [censored] like shes married we haven't done [censored], I told him that I knew he wanted to date her because she told me so and to stop the bullshit.
I wish ther were a way to fix this now but I doubt it.
My buddies wife was telling me that this is probably what needed to happen to fix it. That I needed to stand up to her and thats what it took for her. She said it got way worse ( like this before it got better).
I dunno I'd like to believe that my standing up for myself will turn this [censored] around eventually but the fact it got physical and the cops were called I doubt it.