Is this something I should verbalize to her or just start 'ignoring/detaching' and show by actions (not answering phone/texts, etc.)? Afer all, it's quite obvious when I fall for her contacting me she then pulls back/detaches and tries to steel herself. She is so afraid to let herself feel anything.
If you are referring to those examples of "tests",no you don't verbalize any of it......you just prepare yourself emotionally and know that it's a scheme and you will need to turn her down on any offer of sex. Those were simply examples of what she might try. You steel yourself if she makes a play for you and gently walk away b/c it's not the real thing....it's her ploy to see if she can get you to give in to her sexually. ************************************
As for your son, you want to be available to him, but some WAW's will use their child for their own means.It's just my own opinion, but I think it's an excuse, and a hook for contact and for her to keep tabs on you.Let it go to voice mail and in 30 min or so, then call back and ask to speak to son. You are supppose to be busy and not sitting there ready to grab the phone in case it's her. Just keep it very brief with her and do not get into a discussion with her.You are GAL, sound upbeat and free.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
