ERic and HB, I get it, I really do. However, the NC is a difficult thing to accomplish when kids and finances are involved.
1) He calls to talk to the kids, I answer the phone and give it right to them. Then they give it back to me. Usually he only talks for a few moments.
2) He picks up the kids from school, a few times a week right now, so that is when I have been seeing him in person and those are the times that he breaks down crying and saying all the stuff I've previously posted.
3) I have to communicate with him regarding financial stuff. When we need money in the account, etc...
4) I let him stay with the kids on weekend nights that I have plans with friends. I offer this to him, before contacting a babysitter because it gives him an opportunity to be with his children and vice versa as opposed to me having to pay for a sitter.
Do you think I should not even give him the option and just call a sitter from now on? If I do that, I suppose I fear he will flip out and accuse me of not letting him see his children. (He did that the first time we were separated - because I used to just have my mom watch the kids)
I agree with NC but I just don't see how I can effectively pull that off.
Side note: I called out of work today, stayed home and slept for the most part because I barely got any sleep last night and felt a cold coming on. He picked up the kids from school and brought them home. They came running upstairs and jumped on my bed hugging and kissing me. He stood there watching and tears filled his eyes as he said "I wish someone loved me the way those kids love you" I looked at him and said "someone did" He left shortly thereafter and me and the kids went to Target to get the doggies some food.
I have a bunch of stuff I need to put up on eBay. Maybe tomorrow night.
