Her message about the Christmas gifts really rubbed me the wrong way. Why should she have any say in what you or your family buy your kids? She is trying to assert a measure of control over you. If you let her, she will do it again. As R2C said, they now have duplicate houses so they will need duplicates of some things to avoid dragging things back and forth. Just an FYI-my brother's ex-W used to "lose" things that he bought for their daughter. He eventually had to start leaving everything at his house or he'd and their daughter would never see it again.
Think back how it went any time you talked legal issues with your W before....Didn't go well did it? She claimed she didn't know anything and then you got screwed at the last minute. If you brought it up, my guess is her dumb streak would continue. Just talk to your L. That's way you pay him.
By the way, I've been reading along but not replying lately. You are doing great! Even with the housing setback, your attitude is amazing. Keep it up.
