But, you're right, we dont walk in your shoes. We dont have all the same experiences on here.
You do what feels right to you.
I can tell you that if you are going to dinner in the hopes that she spills something or whatever, you are nowhere near detached. You are still putting an awful lot of attention on what her thoughts are and what her words mean.
When you do that, you can make yourself crazy.
Why? Because as you said, they are not rational.
But I am going to stick with my first piece of advice. Going to dinner for an anniversary with her sends her and your children mixed signals.
I am not saying to close any doors or to stop the communications lines at all.
But what things are you hoping your wife will leak? Cuz, really, none of it matters.
What matters is you and your kids. She has to walk this journey on her own and you need to let her.
It's best to get out of the way of the MLCer.
And get on the path to peace and fulfillment for Warrior.
