Surely you have read elsewhere about the dangers of doing what “feels right.”
Remember that isn’t just about your coming to terms with what happened - it is about her regaining trust. And there is nothing that destroys trust more than an A. Perhaps you feel she is now deserving of your trust.
When you have been setting boundaries, it has worked - I’m 100% with Coach on this one here. The thing to watch out for is to get roped back into the old patterns that did not work.
Be careful of sending mixed messages that will give the impression that your boundary is not a firm one.
Originally Posted By: Atossup
She asks if I will shop and talk with her. I needed a few things.
What message do you think this sends? (That you are pretty much available and willing to drop your other priorities if she asks).
Originally Posted By: Atossup
Outside we hugged again.
“We” don’t hug - one or the other initiates the hug. If you are the initiator, what message do you suppose that sends?
