Originally Posted By: HIL
Detach and let her go?

Ayip

And work on you.

Read my post again to you a few pages back.

Any energy you put toward her right now is wasted energy IMO.

Boundaries are for your protection.

So

You'll know when you need them.

The A is a problem. She has already told you ILYBNIL. You confirmed the PA. You are separated?

I confronted my W. She denied.

Then What?

I left. I knew the truth. Do you need to hear it from her mouth?

It is what it is HIL.

Detaching doesn't mean you want a D. Doesn't mean you don't love her.

Letting go doesn't mean that either. It just means you can't control this so the only thing to do is let her make her choices

YOU

Take care of you.

So do you think confronting her any more is going to get you anywhere.

That is the only question you need ask yourself.

What is good for HIL and my goals.

You are still focused way too much on your W and what she is doing and while you are you won't be getting to a better place.

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am