It would be interesting to see what Sandi or Greek thought about all this. I agree with Pookie - lots of confusion going on here...I wish I had more to offer at this point.
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You mentioned that she would do anything for the kids.
Maybe she needs to be w/o you to know what "anything" means.
I totally understand your perspective with the finances.
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Last night she said again that I could date if I wanted to.
- no self-esteem
- she's having an affair, this is said to ease her guilt
- depression
I don't think I could let that go by, it speaks to your character and what kind of father to your girls you really are.
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This was the second time she's brought it up recently, and I again told her I had no plans to date while married, thinking it would be setting a horrible example for our daughters.
She has horrible self-esteem, and she also thinks she's developing an ulcer. I don't know about depression. And I have no intel regarding an affair, though she might have had one with her old boss (long gone). I really feel sorry for her and hope that our separation can give her some time to work on herself, but I've resigned myself to expecting her to stay the same.
She's almost as screwed up as I am. She's called me twice today, mostly for stuff that could wait.