Whoa hormonal overdrive! She texted me and said "What are you doing and why are you doing this? You know I will not leave son I'm trying to make this siutation as calm as possible and you are scaring me"
then one a minute later "today you said our lives are destroyed. they are not detroyed. We need to keep our heads about this and have calmfor our son if not ourselves."
hmm I am not replying.
Coach, no our finances are not seperate. I am going to change that this week.
Back off now, let her calm down. Next time you communicate clearly let her know your intentions are not to scare her. Be clear about what behavior you have decided isn't going to fly in your marriage - it's non-negotiable. She has a choice, make sure she knows it - ask her to repeat it to you.
Working on the parallel paths here. Suppose your wife apologises and is remorseful. Have you thought thru what you asked her to do and how it affected her?
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
