And I think I do get what you are saying about fantasy...hadn't heard it put like that...but I could certainly see my W getting caught up in the fantasy, despite the fact that it drove her to such low depths of self esteem and such high levels of guilt. Fantasy actually helps me deal with it and get my mind around it, wow. Thanks again!
M39 W41 Two children WAW bomb dropped 11/7/09 Piecing Aug 10 - Nov 10 No longer piecing...Nov 10 Separation Jan 11 EA ends again Feb 11 Piecing attempt #2, Mar 11