Wife is cheating, am sad but confused?

[sandi2]

If you do much reading on other threads, you'll find that the WS uses the "trust" card quiet often. Only they turn the rules around and make you appear to be the one who can't be trusted, instead of them who had the A. Why do the LBS fall into that trap?

but can not expose without her losing more trust for me

Huh??? Why do you have to prove you are worthy of trust? I thought she was the one who BROKE the trust in the M!

I'll tell you why you talked too much....b/c you won't stop believing the old W won't show back up. She is not the girl you M and you have got to accept that or she will clean you out! Start watching your mouth and start protecting yourself financially.

I will confront the boundry issue on OM when the time is right for the situation surrounding kids.

What does that mean? That you will wait until he wants to be their daddy?

I don't think W would have handled everything all at once well.

So?????

She threatened L once before, maybe pushing that issue extremely hard could have been bad for M/R. IDK. If she was up front, she said she does not have L yet.

Listen, stop expecting her to be upfront as long as she has a lover. My advice is to stop telling her everything and make her WONDER what you're up to.