I intend to live forever - so far, so good

[whatisis]

Take a hooker, but make sure she's a Christian...you don't want to deal with that inevitable clash of faiths on your first date!

[ImprovedRomeo]

To clarify my pov I said it because sometimes the society puts too much pressure on us with all these made up rules, what's wrong, what's right, what's moral, what isn't. If CTH truly feels that it's unethical then fine I agree but if he merely 'thinks' that it is then I stand by my suggestion based on the fact that C35 is ok with it and if the two of them are ok then that's all that matters.

I'm not saying to do anything sly or sleezy, just be her friend give her a chance to get to know you. Who knows!

[whatisis]

You're my kind of sleeze, IR hey, didn't mean to come off all sanctimoniously or anything (it's the morphine! ) but often in our society we follow to easily the "if it feels good, do it" mode of thinking about life. CTH, had a very strong initial response to the bf and I think we often need to listen to that little voice because when we start thinking we can legitimize just about anything. If CTY is going out with another guy's gf then he is quite likely playing a part in infidelity or is starting on the path, which he knows all too well is a horribly painful thing. I just think he should avoid that road at all costs. Hey, I think I just saw Jesus in my coffee cup...is that ever cool! When does this stuff wear off?

[ImprovedRomeo]

Of course, CTH had a strong initial reaction to her bf- I got that too and I can completely understand. No guy *wants* to be friends with a girl they're attracted to but it's not end all be all. And I'm in no way advocating infidelity or emotional affairs here. Just being practical- *if* he's ok with it then be her friend.

OK I'm a bit of a sleeze but hey why take life so seriously? no one's getting out of here alive anyway

And you probably did see Jesus in your coffee cup- because you probably only buy coffee cups that have his pics on them

[whatisis]

And you probably did see Jesus in your coffee cup- because you probably only buy coffee cups that have his pics on them

Yah, but he was Chinese and waving a little red book while screaming "Jesus loves you, Comrade"! That's a little odd, don't you think?

[soleil]

Hey, I think I just saw Jesus in my coffee cup...is that ever cool! When does this stuff wear off?

Okay, I *really* need some of your happy pills today

OK I'm a bit of a sleeze but hey why take life so seriously? no one's getting out of here alive anyway

Morality be damned! You guys are cracking me up today. No doubt Wii prob has those cool "Got Jesus" cups where JC is giving the "thumbs up" sign Love those.

[whatisis]

Hey, where do you get those cups?

[soleil]

^ http://www.christianshirts.net/images/products/gotj111_350.jpg

But as far as JC merchandise goes, these will always be my favorite:

http://www4.images.coolspotters.com/photos/197344/jesus-is-my-homeboy-t-shirt-profile.jpg

[ClingingToHope]

OK. Things have cleared up a little bit. Cinderella No. 2 turned me down. Here's a paraphrased answer from her:

"OMG, I've got loads of stuff planned for D until the end of the month, I'm so sorry!!! This might not come out right- but I'm not fortunate enough to be one of those every other wknd single parents- D is with me 24/7 - the 'donor' is not involved. Unless I arrange for my sister to keep D or she has a sleepover, which lately all seem to take place here instead of her going to a friends, I don't get out. I tend to get out more during the summer because my sister is more willing to take her overnight due to the kids not being in school. I'm hoping to get out next month tho, sad I know, and not conducive to any type of social life, but not much I can do about it. I've never been to any of the fundraising galas like this, they look like a lot of fun! Have a good time...I usually post on FB if I'm going out because it's so rare...."

That sounds like a polite brush off. That's too bad. I met her last year through a friend and we became Facebook friends and we've traded messages back and forth for a while.

Anyway. Back to Cinderella No. 1. I am going to go because it would be very awkward to back out. If anyone asks at the ball I'll just say we are friends from church, she went through a D four years ago and I'm going through one now.

I look at it as practice for the future -- working on small talk that doesn't involve the D process. Learning how to get to know someone. I haven't had to do that in years.

[ClingingToHope]

Back to Cinderella No. 2. Give me some pointers on how to respond. Should I ask if I should look for events farther in advance -- trying to nail down if she is giving me a blanket no -- or just say thanks for getting back to me, maybe some other time?